Talking about Ex-partners is yet another contentious issue that comes up in MANY relationships.

In researching this article, I found that BOTH men and women really dislike hearing about their partner’s previous conquests.  Though communication about one’s past IS important, there is definitely a wrong time and a right time to spill about your Ex.

So why ARE people compelled to talk about the past?

It is something that seems natural to want to do.  You invested time, emotions, and trust in someone, and that person may have been a large part of your life.   Also, we sometimes have a tendency to romanticize things, and be nostalgic about a ‘happy’ time in our lives.

But now that relationship has failed….so….?

Stay in touch??  Just be friends??  TALK TO YOUR NEW PARTNER ABOUT THEM?!?!

NO!

Stop living in the past and keep it to yourself.

And DO NOT think we are somehow intrigued and want to know! (if we ASK, we want to know)

Chances are, if you routinely talk about your Ex, you probably fall into one of these three categories….all of which turn men off, if not scare them away.

Woman #1 – Still in love/Other men=Inadequate – She gushes and glows about her Ex, what a great guy he was, how much money he made, etc.  Her mind already knows what man she wants….the Ex…and us guys can tell.

Woman #2 – Man-hater/Bitter Woman – The scariest one, she constantly talks negatively about her experiences with men.  How her last man didn’t: remember her birthday, ever call her, how he disrespected her, or broke her heart.  She scares men, in that, we see how low her self-respect must be to stay with such a loser…and there is nothing attractive about that

Woman #3 – The Chatterbox – She just can’t stand a pause in a conversation, so she is willing to talk, positive and negative about her Exes to fill the spaces…but if it isn’t informative or interesting, it’s just gossip.  And people who just talk about other people all the time are…boring!

So there it is.

If you find the need to relive your past, or talk negatively/positively about your ex…call a girlfriend, because we don’t want to hear it.

You can’t change the past but you can learn from it.  Start living for the now!

Telling it like it is…

The Bros.

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